The YoYo chameleons
Does it sound familiar - you are having a nice night out, someone in your group of friends( assuming you are the introvert) or another bunch of people hanging there, initiates a conversation. Gradually you open up, the night gets extended, and you leave the bar with communication contacts and hugs. And then next day you are complete strangers.
Signs of a social YoYo chameleon
1) almost a split personality
2) mostly on drugs/or heavily alcoholised at bars
3) are quick to add you on Facebook, hug you, make you believe, if you are still a bar-society naive, that there is a genuine connection going on.
4) totally forget about your existence
5) doesnt respond to fb messenger or phone texts next day
6) up untill you possibly meet at a bar again and reinitiate step 3
So essentially marked by a a facade of friendliness which might be considered being polite or fake depending on the prevelant culture
Lack of empathy or inability to connect at a genuine level - does not mind wasting even their own time in frivolous social interactions even if they are leading nowhere - neither are those resulting in an exchange of ideas that eradicate ignorance nor do they lead to formation/initiation of long lasting human bonds.
Common excuse is being "jaded" and "people are so horrible and mean and hurt my sentiment" - blissfully unaware (or consciously not aware) of the fact that they are playing the same role.
Another marked feature - online behavior is markedly different sometimes on the hookup apps. Like "hey gurl...saw you at the bar... ". - sometimes there is accusations of you ignoring them (and you go " wtf!!")...other times there are invitations to go over and talk to their gentle socially awkward introverted souls next time you meet them. Now if you fall in that trap - repeat behavior explained above.
So what drives this behavior - more importantly how to shield yourself from this emotional trauma?
