Binder

All of us who seek true love, know the existence of Binder - the app dedicated to enriching the lives of mostly gay men and other non-cis non-het queers folks. It has intertwined itself to our lives to the extent that the first thing a lot of us check after waking up in the morning is not anymore, our Facebook feed, but the Binder tap and message list to see if you previous night's drunk taps and messages succeeded in the paving the path to our next truest love.

There are some confusing messages off course - the most prevalent type being a shirtless torso with the claim of "looking for true love". Or people seeking connections but refusing to start a conversation - possibly they are seeking connection once certain criteria , which can be confirmed by pictures of face and other body parts, is met. However, that is not very apparent from their profile description and many a  innocent unqualified men have sacrificed their self-esteem on this altar to falsehood.

There is some discretion asked for and displayed some times too - which is not surprising given being queer and out about it is still not considered in many parts of the world still There are bigots in positions of power who might use their personal biases to cause you harm and there are no laws preventing a lot of it from happening. But still, some of these connection seekers have a strange sense of entitlement - they could actually go the extent of asking very intimate questions and asking for pictures of every body-part( am waiting for the day someone would ask for e full-body x-ray, but anywho), without feeling the need to reveal their face.

One would assume, being constantly bombarded by hate and indifference in the cishet world, one would find some solace and empathy in the BInder app - one could not be further from the truth.

Denver Bitter

A place of Honey - with Bitter extracts
Confusing?Indeed!Let me lay down the facts!

Familiar faces whom you might have known for days
Would walk right past you with an unfamiliar gaze

the ones' on whom productive hours were spent
    Socializing on social apps which specialise on sex
Would have a stranger's stare if you smile by accident
    An amnesia that is pretty bewildering and comlex!

With rising levels of alcohol in bloodstreams
Some changes might appear, as if in your dreams
An unrequited desert might give you a wink
But dont be fooled - it is not what you might think
(Not that i have not been fooled before
by taking the wrong cue, i was handed a rejection sore)

So be there with known friends and rehearse your pretenses
Shut out your emotions and build your defenses
Chug a few down and unfasten a few shirt buttons
unleash your social self as you cajole with the fellow gluttons

And if you survived with an unhurt heart (and unscarred self-esteem too)
Denver Bitter might start tasting Sweet to you!!